As I was putting the finishing touches on my latest blog on how I felt like I “won” my first random encounter with the ex, I began perusing FB after a 6 week hiatus. I had hidden any posts from the ex, his close friends and family so as to not know every little detail of his life. Little did I know, I should have also hidden other “friends'” posts. In my first 24 hours back on FB, I noticed that a sorority sister of mine who lives in town tagged him in a post. It just felt strange and after a little exploring, it seems that the two of them have been seeing a lot of one another and it is all over FB. Worse, everyone knew, but me…the ultimate form of public humiliation.
I’ve spent the past 24 hours having a complete emotional meltdown, even worse than when we first broke up. There are so many things that are fundamentally messed up about this situation that I don’t think I can even articulate all of them. I am devastated that he moved on before my body was even cold. I am confused that he moved on with someone I know. I am humiliated that it was broadcasted all over FB. I am sick that he has treated me this way. I am sad that this is what our 6 year relationship has boiled down to.
I understand that people break up and people move on. That isn’t the issue. It is the utter lack of respect and human decency that he has shown me over the past 6 weeks. The way an individual treats an ex during a break up is a true reflection of that person’s character. While my ex was by no means a perfect boyfriend, I honestly felt that he loved and cared about for at least most of the 6 years we were together. However, his actions over the course of this break up have revealed his true character…a sociopath.
I am truly struggling to find humor in this situation. I guess I can only hope he ends up on a sex offender registry someday. (Re-read Disclaimers.)
***After posting this, a good friend sent me a quote “Tough times don’t last; tough people do!” Not very funny, but very inspiring.
Heartbreak with Humor 
Sociopathy can be defined as any 3 of the following. Check all that apply.
Callous unconcern for the feelings of others. (check?)
Gross and persistent attitude of irresponsibility and disregard for social norms, rules, and obligations. (check?)
Incapacity to maintain enduring relationships, though having no difficulty in establishing them. (check?)
Very low tolerance to frustration and a low threshold for discharge of aggression, including violence.
Incapacity to experience guilt or to benefit from experience.
Markedly prone to blame others or to offer plausible rationalizations for the behavior.
Can’t speak to the last three, as I did not know this Ex personally, but from your post I’d say you are dead on, Doc! 🙂 Hang in there! XOXO
He definitely never was violent or particularly short fused. The other characteristics sound oddly familiar…
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